The question here is: What has happened to the space between? It’s the most important space in any discussion, debate or relationship. And we seem to have completely disregarded it.

The hard fact is no one is completely right all of the time. And wrong can be just as important as right if it moves you toward the right answer. Great minds like Einstein and Edison pointed out that they were easily wrong many, many more times than they were right. It’s true of science and it’s true of social issues and it applies to all of us. As I ponder these divisive times – when it seems that people sprint as fast as they can to an opinion and then chain themselves to it – I get pessimistic about us ever finding a better way. Look at the family separation issue that has dominated the news from any perspective for weeks now. My sentiment tells me that no one is OK with families being separated but the fact is some see it as a necessary evil. And they put the blame on the parents who ultimately are the violators of US immigration laws and policies. I see their point. My sentiment also tells me that most would agree that we must have strong borders with controlled immigration. But turning families away who are fleeing the kind of violence and despair that most Americans will never, ever know (thank God) seems unacceptable to many. I see their point. But instead of sitting down and doing the hard work of compromise, everyone sprints and chains. To those on the right: How about remembering the fundamental ideals that have made America great? We don’t use children and innocents as leverage tools. We do find the ways to help. And the fact that you were lucky enough to be born here doesn’t give you some divine claim on the pursuit of happiness. To those on the left: No one is yanking or snatching anyone. Separation is happening, but using inflammatory words like that helps nothing. And yes, it is possible to have opinions that are strong on borders and still be compassionate. They’re not mutually exclusive. The answers lie in communication. Exchanging ideas. Forcing yourself to see the other side. Being open and willing to consider the possibility that your stance is not the best way. Drop the chains. Find the space between.





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